You have all seen the scene unfold. It’s the end of another great date with your lady of the moment. You have chemistry. She has been flirting hard, a subtle arm touch while she tells you how wickedly clever you are. She’s biting her lip, twirling her hair, and maintaining prolonged eye contact. She is definitely feeling you. You walk her to her door, and lean in to give her a sweet gentle kiss, just the way she wants it right?
If there was one thing I could say that would sum up how most women want to be kissed it would have to, beyond any doubt, be “Shut Up and Pull My Hair!”
That can be taken literally.
Let me break it down for you. It’s about finding the right mix of anticipation and aggression. She has given you the signals, laughed at all your jokes, leaned in close to you, and whispered sweet nothings in your ear. You sir, have been green-lighted. Once you have been green-lighted, it’s time to handle it.
Nothing is sexier to a woman than a man that can take control and make the first move. A woman doesn’t want to have to ask you to kiss her. She wants you to look at her, really look at her, a look that tells her she is about to be in very big trouble. Then she wants you to push her up against the wall and kiss her like you mean it. If she responds favorably, and she most likely will to a kiss like that, keep doing it. And feel free to run your hands through her hair and give it a nice firm, prolonged tug. No really. Do it, please.
It’s that easy, really. A kiss like that leaves no room for ambiguity or shyness. The intentions are clear. Be prepared for a rather enthusiastic response. Many women long to be kissed like that but so seldom are that when they do, they may lose their mind in the best possible way. You may just get what you are asking for.
That friends, is what the “Shut Up and Pull My Hair” concept is really all about.
I have to put the disclaimer out there that this approach may not be appropriate for all women. And never, under any circumstances, consider doing this if the green-light moment, as discussed previously, has not arrived. If she has kept her distance and has not really shown any more interest beyond the point of being polite, do not proceed in this fashion. Also, this could scare the shit out of a meek and mild mannered second-virginity type of lady and I don’t want to be responsible for that. When in doubt or if totally clueless, ask her how she likes to be kissed. It is better to ask and lose a few man points than to just go for it when she isn’t feeling you at all and look like a complete, oblivious ass.
This is a bold move for a man to make. Few women will come right out and tell you this is what they want. Not every man will be brave enough to try it. For those who are, it could offer huge rewards if executed properly. It shows your lady that you are not timid, that you can take control, and that you want her. Really want her. Women love to be wanted. Most women will appreciate and reward your boldness and will see you as a risk taker, and a sexy one at that.
So go ahead, “shut up and pull her hair” already. You can thank me later.